Chapter 13: Ammon Becomes Lovesick Over Tamar
1 After this Absalom the son of David had a lovely (beautiful) sister whose name was Tamar and Ammon the son of David loved her (Absalom and Tamar are full-blooded brother and sister from the same mother, David’s wife Maacah, 2 Shemuyah 3:3. Ammon is the son of David’s wife Ahinoam, 2 Shemuyah 3:2). 2 Ammon was so distressed over his sister Tamar that he became sick for she was a virgin. And it was improper for Ammon to do anything to her.
Yonadab Gives Amnon a Plan to Get Tamar into His Bedroom
3 But Amnon had a friend whose name was Yonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother. Now Yonadab was a very crafty man. 4 And he said to him, “why are you, the king’s son becoming thinner day after day? Will you not tell me”? Amnon said to him, “I love Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister”. 5 So Yonadab said to him, “Lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill. And when your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me food and prepare the food in my sight that I may see it and eat it from her hand’.” 6 Then Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill and when the king came to see him, Amnon said to the king, “Please let Tamar my sister come and make a couple of cakes for me in my sight, that I may eat from her hand”.
Amnon Rapes Tamar
7 And David sent home to Tamar saying, “Now go to your brother Amnon’s house and prepare food for him”. 8 So Tamar went to her brother Amnon’s house and he was lying down. Then she took flour and kneaded it, made cakes in his sight and baked the cakes. 9 And she took the pan and placed them out before him but he refused to eat. Then Amnon said, “Have everyone go out from me”. And they all went out from him. 10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food into the bedroom, that I may eat from your hand”. And Tamar took the cakes which she had made and brought them to Amnon her brother in the bedroom. 11 Now when she had brought them to him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, “Come, lie with me, my sister”. 12 But she answered him, “No, my brother, do not force me, for no such thing should be done in Ysrayl. Do not do this disgraceful thing! 13 And I, where could I take my shame? And as for you, you would be like one of the fools in Ysrayl. Now therefore, please speak to the king for he will not withhold me from you”. 14 However, he would not heed her voice and being stronger than she, he forced her and lay with her.
Amnon Kicks Tamar Out His House With Only Her Robe of Many Colors On
15 Then Amnon hated her exceedingly so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone”! 16 So she said to him, “No, indeed! This evil of sending me away is worse than the other that you did to me”. But he would not listen to her. 17 Then he called his servant who attended him and said, “Here! Put this woman out, away from me and bolt the door behind her”. 18 Now she had on a robe of many colors, for the king’s virgin daughters wore such apparel. And his servant put her out and bolted the door behind her.
Tamar Tells Absalom What Amnon Did
19 Then Tamar put ashes on her head and tore her robe of many colors that was on her and laid her hand on her head and went away crying bitterly. 20 And Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother. Do not take this thing to heart”. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house.
David is Angry with Amnon; Abishalom Hates Amnon
21 But when king David heard of all these things, he was very angry. 22 And Absalom spoke to his brother Amnon neither good nor bad. For Absalom hate Amnon because he had forced his sister Tamar.
Two Years Pass and Abishalom Sets His Plan Into Motion
23 And it came to pass, after two full years that Absalom had sheep shearers in Baal Hazor, which is near Ephraim. So Absalom invited all the kings’ sons. 24 Then Absalom came to the king and said, “Kindly note, your servant has sheep shearers. Please let the king and his servants go with your servant”. 25 But the king said to Absalom, “No, my son, let us not all go now lest we be a burden to you”. Then he urged him but he would not go and he blessed him. 26 Then Absalom said, “If not, please let my brother Amnon go with us”. And the king said to him, “Why should he go with you”? 27 But Absalom urged him. So he let Amnon and all the king’s sons go with him.
Abishalom Commands His Servants to Kill Amnon
28 Now Absalom had commanded his servants saying, “Watch now, when Amnon’s heart is merry with wine and when I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon! Then kill him. Do not be afraid. Have I not commanded you? Be courageous and valiant”. 29 So the servants of Absalom did to Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the king’s sons arose and each one got on his mule and fled.
The Man With the Master Plan Yonadab Comforts David When He Hears Wrong that All His Sons are Dead
30 And it came to pass, while they were on the way, that news came to David saying, “Absalom has killed all the king’s sons and not one of them is left”! 31 So the king arose and tore his garments and lay on the ground and all his servants stood by with their clothes torn. 32 Then Yonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother, answered and said, “Let not my master suppose they have killed all the young men, the king’s sons, for only Amnon is dead. For by the command of Absalom this has been determined from the day that he forced his sister Tamar. 33 Now therefore, let not my master the king take the thing to his heart, to think that all the king’s sons are dead. For only Amnon is dead”.
David Mourns Amnon: Abishalom Flees to Geshur For Three Years
34 Then Absalom fled. And the young man who was keeping watch lifted his eyes and looked and there, many people were coming from the road on the hillside behind him (And the watchman went and told the king and said, “I see men from the way of Horonaim from the regions of the mountains”). 35 And Yonadab said to the king, “Look the king’s sons are coming as your servant said, so it is”. 36 So it was, as soon as he had finished speaking that the king’s sons indeed came and they lifted up their voice and wept. Also the king and all his servants wept very bitterly. 37 But Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur. And David mourned for his son every day. 38 So Absalom fled and went to Geshur and was there three years. 39 And king David (or reads the spirit or soul of king David) longed to go to (reads ceased to pursue after) Absalom. For he had been comforted concerning Amnon because he was dead.
*Absalom fled to his grandfather the king of Geshur, his mother’s father, 2 Shemuyah 3:3.
*Why didn’t David punish Amnon for raping his sister? Maybe because David had committed a sexual sin himself. With all the servants that the Israylites had, why weren’t girls like Dinah and Tamar given chaperones? In the book of Judges when the Levite’s concubine was raped and murdered, Ysrayl went to war with the tribe of Benyamin. When Dinah was raped, it was her brothers that went to war; When Tamar was raped, it was her brother that went to war.
Chapter 14: Abishalom is On David’s Mind: Yoab’s Plan
1 So Yoab the son of Zeruiyah perceived that the king’s heart was concerned about Absalom. 2 And Yoab sent to Tekoa and brought from there a wise woman and said to her, “Please pretend to be a mourner and put on mourning apparel. Do not anoint yourself with oil but act like a woman who has been mourning a long time for the dead. 3 Go to the king and speak to him in this manner”. So Yoab put the words in her mouth.
The Wise Woman of Tekoa is Sent to David by Yoab to Tell Him a Parable
4 And when the woman of Tekoa spoke (or came) to the king, she fell on her face to the ground and prostrated herself and said, “Help, O king”! 5 Then the king said to her, “What troubles you”? And she answered, “Indeed I am a widow, my husband is dead. 6 Now your maidservant had two sons and the two fought with each other in the field and there was no one to part them but the one struck the other and killed him. 7 And now the whole family has risen up against your maidservant and they said, ‘Deliver him who struck his brother, that we may execute him for the life of his brother whom he killed and we will destroy the heir also’. So they would extinguish my ember that is left and leave to my husband neither name nor remnant on the earth”.
David Promises the Wise Woman that No Revenge Will Be Brought Against Her Living Son
8 Then the king said to the woman, “Go to your house and I will give orders concerning you”. 9 And the woman of Tekoa said to the king, “My master, o king, let the iniquity be on me and on my father’s house and the king and his throne be guiltless”. 10 So the king said, “Whoever says anything to you, bring him to me and he shall not touch you anymore”. 11 Then she said, “Please let the king remember Yah your Father and do not permit the avenger of blood to destroy anymore, lest they destroy my son”. And he said, “As Yah lives not one hair of your son shall fall to the ground”.
The Wise Woman Confesses to David that Someone Sent Her Because She Knows Yah is With David and She is Afraid
12 Therefore, the woman said, “Please, let your maidservant speak another word to my master the king”. And he said, “Say on”. 13 So the woman said: “Why then have you schemed such a thing against the people of Yah? For the king speaks this thing as one who is guilty, in that the king does not bring his banished one home again. 14 For we will surely die and become like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be gathered up again. Yet Yah does not take away a life but He devises means, so that His banished ones are not expelled from Him. 15 Now therefore, I have come to speak of this thing to my master the king because the people have made me afraid. And your maidservant said, ‘I will now speak to the king. It may be that the king will perform the request of his maidservant. 16 For the king will hear and deliver his maidservant from the hand of the man who would destroy me and my son together from the inheritance of Yah’. 17 Your maidservant said, ‘The word of my master the king will now be comforting. For as the angel of Yah, so is my master the king in discerning good and evil. And may Yah your Almighty be with you’.”
David Asks the Wise Woman if Yoab Sent Her: David Tells Yoab to Bring Absalom Back to Yahrushalim But Abishalom Does Not Stand Before David
18 Then the king answered and said to the woman, “Please do not hide from me anything that I ask you”. And the woman said, “Please, let my master the king speak”. 19 So the king said, “Is the hand of Yoab with you in all this”? And the woman answered and said, “As you live, my master the king, no one can turn to the right hand or to the left from anything that my master the king has spoken. For your servant Yoab commanded me and he put all these words in the mouth of your maidservant. 20 To bring about this change of affairs your servant Yoab has done this thing but my master is wise according to the wisdom of the angel of Yah to know everything that is in the earth”. 21 And the king said to Yoab, “All right, I have granted this thing. Go therefore, bring back the young man Abasalom”. 22 Then Yoab fell to the ground on his face and bowed himself and thanked the king. And Yoab said, “Today your servant knows that I have found favor in your sight, my master O king in that the king has fulfilled the request of his servant”. 23 So Yoab arose and went to Geshur and brought Absalom to Yahrushalim . 24 And the king said, “Let him return to his own house but do not let him see my face”. So Absalom returned to his own house but did not see the king’s face.
Abishalom’s Hansom Appearance and Beautiful Hair: The Children of Abishalom
25 Now in all Ysrayl there was no one who was praised as much as Absalom for his good looks. From the sole of his food to the crown of his head there was no blemish in him. 26 And when he cut the hair of his head at the end of every year he cut it because it was heavy on him. When he cut it, he weighed the hair of his head at two hundred shekels according to the king’s standard. 27 To Absalom were born three sons and one daughter whose name was Tamar. She was a woman of beautiful appearance.
*David’s family is known for beauty: Yliab, David’s brother was very handsome but Yah refused him and told Shemuyah that He looks at the heart, 1 Shemuyah 16:6-7. David was good-looking and had a heart for Yah, 1 Shemuyah 16:12, 1 Shemuyah 17:42 and 1 Shemuyah 18:14. David’s son Absalom and Absalom’s daughter, Tamar (who is named after his sister Tamar) have this same beauty. Tamar, David’s daughter was beautiful, 2 Shemuyah 13:1. 1 Kings 1:6, David’s son Adoniyah was also good looking.
*There are three women in the bible named Tamar.
David and Yoab Ignore Abishalom For Two Years: Abishalom Burns Yoab’s Field to Get His Attention
28 And Absalom dwelt two full years in Yahrushalim but did not see the king’s face. 29 Therefore, Absalom sent for Yoab, to send him to the king but he would not come to him. And when he sent again the second time, he would not come. 30 So he said to his servants, “See Yoab’s field is near mine and he has barley there. Go and set it on fire”. And Absalom’s servants set the field on fire. 31 Then Yoab arose and came to Absalom’s house and said to him, “Why have your servants set my field on fire”? 32 And Absalom answered Yoab, “Look, I sent to you saying, ‘Come here, so that I may send you to the king to say, Why have I come from Geshur? It would be better for me to be there still. Now therefore, let me see the king’s face but if there is iniquity in me, let him execute me”. 33 So Yoab went to the king and told him. And when he had called for Absalom, he came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king. Then the king kissed Absalom.