Israelite Customs for Marriage

Last year, I helped my niece do a report on Mali for World Geography. While researching we read about a group of nomads that live sometimes in the Mali region called The Fulani. Fulani women are famous for wearing golden earrings attached to red thread. They wear them in their ears or hair. Only married Fulani women wear them, given to them on their wedding day from their husband to be.

This is the cover of one of the books we used for her report. The Fulani lady has her earrings attached to her hair as a symbol that she belongs to a man. Off topic: the blue around her mouth is some kind of paint that they paint on.

Here is a picture of Fantasia wearing Fulani earrings around 2009 or 2010 (?). They have become fashionable for sistas to wear in the United States.

Another Picture of the Fulani earrings

Last week while in Shabbat Scripture Study, the Israelites were talking about wedding rings. They said they were a pagan custom. This was something I did not know. They quoted this scripture: Genesis 24:22, So it was when the camels had finished drinking that the man (Isaac) took a golden nose ring weighing half a shekel and two bracelets for her (Rebekah) wrists weighing ten shekels of gold. The Israelites said this was the custom back then, for a man to give his wife this type of jewelry as a sign of marriage, much like the Fulani whom I had read about. It does seem uncouth today but I think I could wear a bracelet instead of a ring. I don’t think I would look good with a nose ring though, LOL. People did, however, wear rings back then but not wedding rings. Pharaoh gave Joseph a ring as a sign of power, Genesis 41:42, Solomon used a ring to control the demons in the Pseudepigrapha vol. 1, Testament of Solomon pages 960-987 *(I edited here because originally the Israelites said there was no ring and that Solomon used only his authority but now they say there was a ring of authority which makes sense now because Yah gave signet rings spiritual and physical. See my post called ‘the signet ring’) and in the parable of the lost son, the dad puts a ring on the son that returned to him, Luke 15:22. *Judah gave Tamar his signet ring, cord and staff as a pledge in Genesis 38:16-18.

So where does the wedding ring come from? I found the following on the web: The wedding ring cannot be found in the law or testimonies (old and new testaments). The wedding ring comes from paganism. Ancient Idol (statues) wore rings. Pope Gregory I, in 860  AD decreed that as a required statement of nuptial intent, the groom to be had to give his intended an engagement ring. He further decreed the ring be of gold to signify financial sacrifice. The first diamond engagement ring was given by King Maximilian in 1477 to Mary of Burgundy. Wedding rings can be traced to idols and heathen religions. So the wearing of wedding rings is the practice of Idolatry because you are being like the Idol or doing as the Idol does.

The wedding ring is a circle which is said to mean eternal or unending. Marriages were never eternal in The Scriptures but rather until death. Afterward a spouse could be married again, for example, after Sarah died Abraham married Keturah. The wedding ring originated in Babylon. The oldest ring found is in the shaped of the eternal serpent.  The Image of the serpent biting its own tail to form the circle. They also worshipped circles, maybe in the place of the sun and moon.

This is an image of the serpent ring

The Israelites did wear jewelry. Remember Yah expressed His love for Israelites in Ezekiel 16:1-14 I adorned you with ornaments, put bracelets on your wrists and a chain on your neck. and I put a jewel in your nose, earrings in your ears and a beautiful crown on your head. Thus you were adorned with gold and silver… the Israelites are married to Yah. We are to have no other before Him.

Um, well, LOL, I guess my husband-to-be  and I will be exchanging bracelets at our ceremony before Yah. When you know better, you do better. I learn so much being around the Israelites, our people, and I know it is because of Yah.

*If you came into the truth with wedding bands, save them. You may need that gold, silver or platinum for bartering when the economy crashes.

*Please read the White Linen post parts 1 & 2.

*08/17/2016: A reader recently commented that Gregorius Anicius lived during the Byzantine times and that the above information is not correct. That may be true but one thing still stands… the Gentiles created wedding rings not the Israylites. Wedding rings are not in the bible…

*11/03/2018: Quick Update: RED CORAL BEADS

A question was just asked by reader of the blog and many of you have asked this same question: Did Israylite men wear ornaments to show that they were married? I have not read any scripture to show that they were married to a woman (or women) but I did read where Yah said that He put ornaments on the Israylites (Yahezql, Ezekiyah 16: 11-13). However, I have read that it is a custom of Nigerians (especially of the Yoruba and Igbo) to wear red coral beads at their wedding, as you can see from the above picture. You can see in the picture above, him ‘sportin’ a coral necklace and bracelet. Some Nigerians also wear more ornate coral beads displays such as head adornments (women) and coral beads across the body. I should add here, that the people (men and women) of the country of Benin also where red coral beads at their weddings. Let me also say that this custom is not just a fashionable trend or fad. I read that the coral beads (mostly) have come from the Mediterranean Sea (which also boarders the country of Ysrayl) and was a major source of coral beads found in Africa between 1200 AD and 1800 AD. So this custom has been going on for a long time and that is just when it was recorded, this custom could be even older. I also wonder if “something red” was a sign of marriage? Since the Fulani also used red but as thread in the earring to show marriage.

The color red maybe symbolism for a blood covenant.

Published by blessedwomanofyah

Shalom, my name is AshantiYAH. I am a servant of the Most High Yah and His son Yahoshua. I am a messianic Israylite. My hometown is T'zion.

26 thoughts on “Israelite Customs for Marriage

  1. As I am studying on this day of shabbat it is refreshing to find my sisters in yah teaching on the nose ring. I am married and would like to have a nose ring as symbol of my marriage;however, my job says that we cannot have nose piercings and I am really disappointed in this rule.

    1. Shabbat Shalom Victoriyah, may Yah bless and keep you and your family on this set apart day in the name of Yahoshua. I pray the situation with nose ring will work out for you and thank you for visting my blog.

  2. Thank you for writing this article. I am looking to get back to my roots before we were slaves. I have been researching this for a few months and I believe God wants his children to go back to how we did it in the bible. Not following paganistic ways. I will be getting my nose ring and bracelets! #BeBlessed

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  4. so could i (since im already married and just came into the knowledge of the wedding band statute) could i wear my rings on a bracelet?

    1. I think ahkotee, that you should discuss this with your husband (and your husband go to Yah through Yahoshua). Wedding rings are a custom of the nations (and Yah says we are to be set-apart) but if you were already wearing them when you came into the truth, you may want to keep them on or put them on a bracelet as you said. There is no statue (or law) saying thou shall or shall not wear wedding rings. Some of us even came into the truth with tattoos and Yah still works (has mercy) with us. Yah goes by what’s on our hearts most of all. I hope that helps. Yah bless.

  5. You’re absolutley right. i have them on a bracelet at the moment. I thank th Most High for such mercy because i have quite a few tattoos. His mercy endures forever. Thank you for your input.

  6. Wow. I’ve come into the word awhile ago and long before this, I had been telling my fiance I wanted to pierce my nose…But now err are about to be married next month and this just gives me reason……What type of bracelets are we to share or wear and is it for the men?

    1. Congratulations on your engagement. The Set-apart Spirit must have been upon you, you wanting to pierce your nose for marriage. Genesis 24:22 just says that the two bracelets weighed ten shekels of gold (they possibly could have not been gold) but the Israylites did like to wear gold, read Numbers 31:50 and since the nose ring was gold that was given to Ribkeyah, the bracelets were most likely gold. This was most likely a custom and not a law, so if you can’t afford gold right now, just do the best you can. King Shaul in 2 Shemuyah 1:10 had a bracelet but I am unsure if it represented marriage, it could have but I kind of doubt it. It was probably just for his own pleasure. Could you imagine King Solomon walking around with a thousand bracelets on? LOL, that might look kind of ridiculous. How could he get anything done with all those bracelets on? Although, Israylite men could have possibly worn ornaments to show that they were married to Yah because Yah said ‘He adorned you’ in gold and silver, in Yahezqyl chapter 16. Hmm, this was a good thought-provoking question.


    1. I have not read where Israylite men wore ornaments to show that they were married to a woman or women. But I did read where Yah said that He put ornaments on the Israylites in Yahezqyl chapter 16. That shows belonging to Him. I don’t think there is a law against giving your husband an ornament, if you all want to wear them.

  7. It’s actually a great and helpful piece of information. I’m happy that you shared this useful information with us.

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  8. Shalom, I found this blog as I was researching which nations or cultures traditionally wear wedding rings 💍 and it seems that Western Culture and maybe the Indians (not the so called Native Americans who are Israelites) and the Japanese wear wedding rings. I have struggled with this custom given to us in captivity (Jeremiah 17:4) because I came into the “Truth” already married so I had to understand this was never our people’s tradition/custom and adjust myself to not wearing a wedding set. The Most High has worked on my spirit and now I have learned better. Thank you for posting this information, I learned more about how Israelites are to wear jewelry.

    1. Thank you Sarah for reading the blog. I am glad that it has helped you. However, I am not convinced that all the Native Americans are Israylites. While some of them may have Israylite blood and may suffer the curses because of inter-marriage, I do believe that most Native Americans are victims of colonialism and not the curses. The Native Americans did not come to the “new world” via the trans-Atlantic slave trade or into Egypt again by ships.

  9. Thank you for this article I found it very useful although I do have the question what did Israelite man wear to symbolize that he was married?

  10. I love your insight into our customs. I will surely be getting bracelets and maybe a nose piercing but I am having a hard time trying to find a way to conduct a ceremony or to hire an officiant. Any suggestions been in truth for almost 2 years and I am not affiliated with a camp.

    1. Congratulations and thank you for reading the blog. You don’t need a big ceremony to make a vow before Yah. It could be just you and your husband-to-be or you can invite friends when you speak to Yah and have a big ceremony. You can have an elder help you with going to Yah, if that makes you more comfortable. You can also make it “legal” at the courthouse, if you wish. As long as you make that vow to Him, He recognizes it. I hope that helps.

      1. Thank You Greatly Sis! Just what I needed to hear. Keep up the great holy work that you are sharing. Yah Bless you, your loved ones and all who you touch cause it’s chosen, powerful work sis.

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